Came back from Honeymoon Trip

Just came back from Honeymoon Trip...  back to work...
When I am walking, I still feel that I am walking on the ship...  ;-)

I'll start to chase everyone for photos and videos of the wedding day...  hahahahaha... :P

Wedding Day Photos by Friends

Photos from Jennifer
Facebook
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=244861&id=514317611&ref=mf

Photos from Johnny
Facebook
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=236417&id=506703502&ref=mf

Photos from Carmen
Picasaweb:
http://picasaweb.google.ca/114071165814900775591/AdaAndWen_0918?authkey=Gv1sRgCOe_os7bsMfJIw#
Facebook:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=229889&id=559966944&ref=mf


I'll keep adding to this list when I receive links from other friends...

Grandma

Now that wedding is over... :)
I'll keep all my wedding related things in this blog.
Other things (including Grandma's situation) will be moved back to my own blog:
Ada's Blue Sky

How to upload photos...

I am going to show you how to upload photos to
http://wen.wkrew.com/photos/main.php?g2_itemId=1486

Step 1:
Go to http://wen.wkrew.com/photos/main.php?g2_itemId=1486

Step 2:

Step 3:

Step 4:

Step 5:
Done!

Got married...

After a long time of planning, the wedding day is over...  I am now married...  :)

Thanks God for a smooth wedding!
We had good weather...   Even though the weather network predicted rain, it was only cloudy...
Everything else went 90% according to plan... :D

Thank you so much for coming to my wedding!! 
I may not get a chance to talk to each one of you personally yesterday...
I had a tight schedule...  :P

I also want to thanks all the helpers!!
Without all of you, my wedding won't be so wonderful!  :D

I'll be going to my honeymoon soon, so I may not have time to update this blog...
Please stay tune...
I am planning to put my behind the scene things for my wedding...  I didn't want to put here earlier to spoil the surprise...   Just like concert DVDs, there is a behind the scene section... coming soon...  ;)


If you have taken photos in my wedding, can you please share the photos with me?  :D
Please upload your photos here:
http://wen.wkrew.com/photos/main.php?g2_itemId=1486
Thanks!  

Wedding Day!!!!!

Today is the wedding day!!!

1 day to My Wedding

1 day left...

Since it's night time already, there is less than 1 day now... hahaha... :D
I need to sleep early tonight...  I need to be at the wedding studio for makeup at 5am!!!  :(
I am afraid that I'll over slept...
Things are basically 95% done...  I hope I won't have a problem sleeping tonight...

According to the Weather Network, tomorrow afternoon will have isolated showers.  Hopefully, there will be no rain in areas where I am going tomorrow...   Please pray for good weather!  :D

Please also pray for my wedding so everything will go smoothly tomorrow!  :)


As for my grandma, her condition has gotten worse. 
She has a roughly 3cm blood spot in her brain...  The spot has increased...
Doctor also tells us that there is massive blood clot in her heart...  The blood clot could travel to her brain...  :'(
All I am hearing from doctors are bad news...   I want to hear some good news...  It would be nice to hear from them that her condition is stable or getting better... 
I am not going to lose my hope yet....  I'll keep praying to God...
Please pray for my Grandma's health!!

2 days to My Wedding

2 days left....

Today is a busy day... Facial... Picking up dresses from wedding studio... etc.
Also, we have the church wedding rehearsal at 8pm.
I hope I'll still remember all the steps on my wedding day... hahahaha... :D

Tomorrow is the last day before my wedding.... Still a lot of little things to be done...  

3 days to My Wedding

3 days left...

Today is the last day of work before wedding...  I'll be starting my vacation tomorrow...  :)

My co-workers held a surprised party for me.
Thank you so much! :)
After a meeting, I went with Linda to Tim Horton for a coffee....  When I came back to my cubicle, I saw a big cake with everyone there...   :D   It was a real surprise... I didn't expect that...

Thank you everyone for organizing this!  :)

At night, I went with Wen to check out the sound system at the restaurant.  Everything is ok! :)


Grandma's condition hasn't improved.  She is still unstable.  :(
According to CAT scan, doctor told us that there are 2 spots of blood in her right brain.  The bigger spot is 1-1.3cm in size.
Speech pathologist has assessed Grandma again.  She still cannot swallow food, so doctor has put a nasogastric tube in her nose to give her food.  I know it's uncomfortable for her.
When I visited her at night, she was kind of awake in between sleeps and tried to pull the tube out.  Man Fu and I had to stop her.
According to doctor, if Grandma's condition is not stable in next 10 days, there is a chance that she might have another stroke.

I know a lot of people have been praying for my Grandma.
Thank you very much!
Please continue to pray for her!!

4 days to My Wedding

4 days left...

Forced myself to focus back on wedding...
Wedding studio called today... I need to change my makeup time to 5am on Saturday morning... 2 hrs less sleep for me.... woo woo woo...  :( 
Why people have to change things last minute? 
People keep reminding me that I won't be able to sleep Friday night due to all the excitements on Saturday...  Well...  I guess 2 hrs less sleep doesn't matter...   even though I don't think I'll have problem sleeping...  :P

5 days to My Wedding

5 days left...

According to the doctors, damage has been done to Grandma...  :'(
Why?  Why?  Why?
This is the question I keep asking God when I am driving home from hospital...

6 days to My Wedding

6 Days left...

During worship today, Pastor Yung and everyone prayed for my grandma.
It's in God's hand now.
All we can do is keep praying...

Wen has done more wedding stuff than me in the last 2 days...  :D

We are working on seating charts...
Some people cannot come last minute...  We're adjusting it again....  putting more people in each table...
Need to finalize that soon...

7 days to My Wedding

7 days left...

Doctors have confirmed that there is a blood clot at the back of grandma's head above her neck.  They cannot give her strong blood thinner until her situation is stabilized.  She seems to be a bit better today, but doctors said she could get better or worse in next 2 days...
We didn't tell her about the stroke... just told her that her nervous system was impacted by the fall...
I feel helpless since there is nothing we can do about her situation...   All I can do is pray to God...  asking God to let me see a miracle...

If you are reading this blog, please pray for her health and full recovery!!
Thanks! 

I wish wedding is like projects at work... can be delayed...
On the other hand, when was the last time any of my projects got delayed?   Not that I can think of...  At least those delays were not caused by me or my team...

It's really hard to switch my mind back to the wedding stuff...
So much things still need to be done...  and this is the last weekend before the wedding....
Well... better do more things tomorrow before the weekend is over...
There are still a lot of items on my weekend To Do list...

I did do 2 things today:

• final fitting for my wedding dress and night dress
• working with Kelvin to print the wedding bulletin...  He is still printing them out for me at this time...

Grandma in hospital

My grandma is currently in Scarborough Grace Hospital.
She was out of breath and felt weak this morning, so her friends called ambulance.
She was still good when she arrived at the hospital, but her condition has gotten worse in the afternoon.
Nurse suspects that she has a stroke.  The blood clot has traveled from her body into her right brain.   That's why her left body is weak and barely movable. 
Since it's Friday afternoon, there is no doctor to look at the CAT scan.  We don't know what is really going on and how serious is her condition.

I just came back from hospital.  Felix is staying with her overnight.  Mom, aunts, and uncle, etc. will be taking shifts staying with grandma in hospital.

If you are reading this blog, please pray for her health and full recovery!!   
Thanks!

Mattress has finally arrived!

Hahahaha....  Our new king size mattress & box have finally arrived!
It looks big in my little condo bedroom...  :P


Enjoy a mattress comic from xkcd:

8 days to My Wedding

8 days left...

Working from home today...  waiting patiently for my new mattress & box...
Tick tick tick.... Deadline is close!   Hopefully, it'll come on time...
I already had to reschedule it once.  It was supposed to come last Friday.
Last Friday, Sears used a lame excuse of truck broke down...   Sears is a big company... I don't think Sears only has ONE truck doing delivery...
I don't want to reschedule again since there is no time.
If it doesn't come today, I am going to be very very mad at Sears...

9 days to My Wedding

9 days left...

Crazily busy at work....  Crazily busy after work doing wedding stuff...
Can't wait until the wedding is over....  ;-)

Time..... I want more hours in a day...   72 hours a day would be nice....  :P
The coming weekend will the last weekend before wedding.... 
Still need to shop shop shop...  :D

I guess my hope of finishing everything 1 week before wedding is not achievable...  :(

10 Days to My Wedding

10

Only 10 days left....
Excited.... Nervous....  Stressed....
So much still need to be done... So little time... :(
A lot of things need to be finalized....

The final version of bulletin is done.... 
It's a bit different from the normal church wedding bulletin... ;-)
Still need to print it....   and fold it....

I've tested the wedding powerpoint slides at church on Sunday...
Looking at the slides from computer monitor and projector are different....   So, I'll need to change the colours in the slides...   very time consuming....

The church decoration preparation work is 95% done....  We spent 2 days working on that....    Thanks a lot to Loretta, Teresa, and Belle!!   :D

We are still having a lot of headache with the wedding day rundown...
Still need to work on dinner reception seating....
Smoke is coming out from our head... hahahaha....  :P

Wedding slides and program

I used to tell people that I am working 2 full-time jobs.  One is real work during the day.  The other one is doing wedding stuff during the night.
Now... As my wedding approaches... I feel like working 3 full-time jobs....  2 jobs for wedding stuff... :P   hahahaha... :D

Well... let see what I have done recently....

I've handed out most of the Church invitations to coworkers last Thursday. :D  Some coworkers are on vacation.   I have also made them a special gift. :)  I'll share the photos here later...

I've complete version 3 for wedding song slides...   I am still waiting for updates from singing team, but it's pretty much done...  It's 90% done...

I've complete version 3 for wedding program last night...  Need to do some more minor adjustments and also waiting for singing team...   It's 85% done...   I've changed it a lot since my original version 1,  which was done like 6 months ago...  The layout is similar... but...  Art is something that takes a lot of time...   I've to try out different background, fonts, etc...   It's so time consuming! 
Version 2 was reviewed yesterday by Wen and Jennifer.  I've basically made different looks of the same page for them to give opinions.
Thanks Jennifer for your opinions!  ;-)  
It'll be a surprise until wedding day...   May be I'll post it here after my wedding...


Wen is working on putting more details on the rundown...
Hopefully, it'll be 80-90% done this week...

Google docs is a wonderful tool!
I can easily share documents and it's free!!  :D
Everyone getting married should get a google docs account...   Well, as long as you have gmail account, you'll have google docs... ;-)

婚姻! 分因!

Today a friend sent me an email that's worth reading...
Not sure who is the originator... but it's good...
Something for all of us to think about...

婚姻!  分因!

我的母親是個非常好的人，

自小，我就看到她努力地維持一個家。

她總是在清晨五時起床，煮一鍋熱騰騰的稀 飯給父親吃，

因為父親胃不好，早餐只能吃稀飯。

然後，還要煮一鍋乾飯給孩子吃，因為孩子正在發 育，

需要吃乾飯，上學一天才不會餓。

 

每個星期，母親會把榻榻米搬出去曬，曬出暖暖的 太陽香。

每天下午，母親總是彎著腰，刷著鍋子，

我們家的鍋子每一個都可以當鏡子用， 完全沒有一點污垢。

晚上，她努力蹲在地上擦地板，一寸一寸仔細地擦 拭，

家裡的地板比別人家的床頭還乾淨，打著赤腳也找 不到一絲灰塵。

我母親是 個認真、辛勞的好女人。

然而，在我父親的眼中，她卻不是一個好伴侶。

我成長過程中，

父親不只一次地表示他在婚姻中的孤單，不被瞭 解。

我的父親是個負責的男人。

他不抽煙、不喝酒，工作認真，每天準時上下班，

暑假還 安排功課表，安排孩子們的作息，

他是個盡責的父親，督促孩子在功課上有所成就。

他喜歡下棋、寫書法，沉浸在古書的世界。

我的父親是個好男人，在孩子們眼中，

他就像天一樣大，保護我們、教育我們。

只是，在我母親的眼中，他也不是一 個好伴侶，

我成長的過程中，

我經常看到母親在院子的角落中，暗暗無聲地掉 淚。

父親 用語言，母親用行動，

表達了他們在婚姻中所面對的痛苦。

成長的過程中，我看到、也聽到父親與母親在婚姻 中的無奈，

也看到、感受到他們是如此好的男人與女人， 他們值得一椿好婚姻。

可惜的是，父親在世的歲月中，

他們彼此的婚姻生活都在挫折中度過，

而我，也一直在困惑中成 長，

我問自己：「兩個好人為什麼沒有好的婚姻﹖」

自以為是的付出

我長大後，進入婚 姻，漸漸了解這個問題的答案。

在婚姻的初期，我就 像母親一樣，

努力持家，努力地刷鍋子、努力擦地板，

認真地為自己的婚姻而努力。

奇怪的是，我不快樂；看看我的先生，似乎他也不快樂。

我心中想，大概是地 板不夠乾淨，飯菜燒得不夠好，

於是，我更努力擦地板，更用心做飯。

似乎，我們兩個人還是不快樂。

直到有一天，我正忙 著擦地板時，

先生說﹕「老婆，來陪我聽一下音樂﹗」

我不悅地說﹕ 「沒 看到還有一大半的地方沒有擦﹗」

這句話一說出口，我 呆住了，好熟悉的一句話，

在我父親母親的婚姻 中，母親也經常這樣對父親說。

我正在重演父 母親的婚姻，也重複他們在婚姻中的不快樂。

有一些領悟出 現在我的心中。

「你要的是﹖」我停下手邊的工作，

看著先生，想到我父 親.....

他一直在婚姻中得不到他要的陪伴，母親刷鍋子的時間都比陪他的時間長。

不斷地做家事，是母親維持婚姻的方法，

她給父親一個乾淨的家，卻從未陪伴他，

她忙著做家事，她用她的方法在愛父親，

這個方法是「做家事」。

而我，我也用我的方法在愛著我的先生。

我的方法也是母親的方法，

我的婚姻好像也在走 向同一個故事

「兩個好人卻沒有好 婚姻。」

我的領悟使我做了不 一樣的選擇。

 

停下手邊的工作，坐 到先生的身邊，陪他聽音樂，

遠遠地看著地上擦地 板的抹布，像是看著母親的命運。

我問先生﹕「你需要什麼﹖」

「我需要妳陪我聽聽音樂，家裡髒一點沒關係呀，

以後幫妳請個傭人， 妳就可以陪我了 ﹗」先生說。

「我以為你需要家裡乾淨，

有人煮飯給你吃， 有人為你洗衣服.....」

我一口氣說了一串應 該是他需要的事。

「那些都是次要的 呀﹗」 先生說。「我最希望妳陪陪我。」

原來我作了許多白 工，這個結果實在令我大吃一驚。

我們繼續分享彼此的需要，才發現他也做了不少白工，

我們都用 自己的方式在愛對方，而不是對方的方式。

 

幸福 的路徑

自此以後，我列了一張先生的需要表，把它放在書桌前，

他也列了 一張我的需求表，放 在他的書桌前。

洋洋灑灑十幾項的需 求，

像是有空陪對方聽音 樂、有機會抱抱對方、每天早上kiss拜拜。

有些項目比較容易做 到，有些項目比較難，

像是「聽我說話，不要給建議。」這是先生的需要。

如果我給他建議，他 說他會覺得自己像笨蛋。

我想，這真是男人的 面子問題。

我也學著不給建議， 除非他 問我，

否則我就只是傾聽， 順服到底，連走錯路時也一樣。

這對我實在是一條不 容易學習的路，不過，比擦地板要輕鬆多了，

而我們在需求的滿足中，婚姻也愈來愈有活 力。

在我累的時候，我就 選擇一些容易的項目做，

像是「放一首放鬆音 樂」，

自己有力氣的時候就 規劃「一次外地旅遊」這樣的事情。

有趣的是，「到植物 園散步」是我們的共同項 目、共同需求，

每次婚姻有爭吵， 去到植物園，總能安慰彼此的心靈。

其實，這也可想而 知，原本我們就是因為對植物園的喜愛而相知相惜，

一起走入婚姻，回到 園子就會回到多 年前彼此相愛的心情。

問對方：「你需要什麼？」這句話開啟了婚姻另一個幸福之路。

兩個好 人終於走上幸福之路。

 

現在，我也知道父母 親的婚姻為何無法幸福，

他們都太執著用「自己」的方法愛對方，

而不是用「對方」的方式愛另一半。

自己 累得半死，對方還感受不到，

最後面對婚姻的期 待，也就灰心而 死了。

既然上帝創造婚姻， 我想，每個人都值得擁有一個好婚姻，

只要方法 用對，作「對方要的﹗」而非自己「想給的﹗」

好婚姻，絕對是可預 期的

 

祝願~~普天下都能有情人終成眷屬唷~~~